What Happens When We Show up for People

Why We Need to Show Up for People

While driving home tonight, the song Live Like That came on the radio. I love music. And I love how different pieces of a song stick out to us at different times. This particular time, the line “Was I love when no one else would show up?” stood out to me. I couldn’t stop thinking about it. We need to show up for people. The end.

I’ve talked a little about being present for people, but we’re going to talk about it again. Okay? Cool.

Sometimes, we just need to show up for people. 

Not because we feel obligated or because it’s convenient.

We need to show up for people simply because we can’t imagine being anywhere else but by that person’s side. 

We need to show up for people on PURPOSE…and WITH purpose…to show them the love of Christ! 

Whether someone is sitting alone in the cafeteria, going through a rough breakup, playing in a basketball game, or participating in something that’s important to them, we need to show up and be there.

And we have to keep showing up, during the good times and the bad.

Why We Need to Show Up for People

When I think about friends who know how to show up for people, my best friend Dulce immediately comes to mind.

Last year, our other best friend’s dad lost his battle to cancer.

Dulce had no car and no way to get from Austin to East Texas but that didn’t stop her from figuring out a way to show up.

That girl took a bus to be here with him and we love her even more because of it.

I came across a quote by Alex Elle that read, “Show up for people. Offer what you can. Be unselfish. Love people when they need it, even when you feel they don’t deserve it. Be a healer. Be kind. Show up for people. Because when you’re hurting you’ll want someone to show up for you.” 

How powerful is that??

I hesitated including that last line. I know, at first glance, it may seem the author’s intent is to show up solely because they want someone to show up for them in return.

In my own personal opinion, I perceive that last line as meaning simply this:

Treat others the way you want to be treated.

Put yourself in the shoes of those around you and be willing to make sacrifices. Show up for people because they need it, and because you know, if the situation was reversed, you would need it, too. 

People need to feel noticed. They need to feel loved. They need to know there is at least one person out there who cares for them. 

Let’s be that person. 

Let’s look for ways to show up for people when no one else shows up.

God, open our eyes this week and help us see opportunities to show up for others. Give us the patience and selflessness to put the needs of others before our own, even when it’s not easy for us to do. May we prove to others through our actions that they are important, and may we be there for them when they need it most. Help us show them love when no one else does.

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  1. Rosanna@ExtraordinaryEverydayMom

    It is so very important to treat others as you would want to be treated, isn’t it? My husband attended a funeral a month or so ago, where the place was packed out. He noted that it was because this man was a friend to everyone and invited just about anyone over for coffee or a meal. Now, obviously, the fact that they showed up at this funeral isn’t what counts. What does, count though, is that he was available to people throughout his lifetime. That was an important reminder to me to be available to others as well.

    1. Kristin Koonce Post author

      AH! YES! What a sweet reminder of the importance of being there for people at all times. I’m thankful for those who stop what they’re doing and invite me in. What an impact it makes! I am so encouraged by your comment. Thank you for sharing! ❤️

  2. Audrey

    I love this! So many people approach friendship as incidental. We’re friends when it’s convenient. But as Christians, we are called to be something more. To intentionally show love wherever we can and to truly be there for the people God has placed in our lives.

  3. Angie

    For months, I’ve been aware of a lady at church who has a son (maybe in his 30’s?) who’d been in a terrible motorcycle wreck and is living in a nursing home in the same town where I live. Today was the first time I saw him- and it made me think that I should have visited the nursing home sooner and let my eyes affect my heart. One thing being there does is it affects our heart and helps us to be more like Christ in the way of compassion! I find that we get the blessing when we try to be a blessing. You can’t outgive the Lord- whatever we give in sacrifice to others is always returned to us in a greater way!


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