What I Learned About Vulnerability

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OKAY, I AM SPEECHLESS. Seriously. Here’s what I recently learned about vulnerability (I actually posted a video about this the other day but felt I needed to write a blog post, too!). So, I apologize if you’re hearing this twice but I am just blown away by God’s faithfulness and can’t help but shout it from the rooftops!

I KID YOU NOT, my #1 most read blog post from 2017 was 3 Tips for Dealing with Anxiety.

Now, at first glance I’m sure that doesn’t seem like a big deal…but here’s why it matters!

I didn’t want to write that blog post. In fact, I put it off for FOUR MONTHS. I knew without a doubt God was calling me, no…TELLING ME, to write that blog post but I absolutely did not want to because I was scared. So, I put it off and put it off. March, April, May, June…FOUR MONTHS, PEOPLE!

Talk about being DISOBEDIENT.

Also, you should know that when I finally sat down to write that blog post…the words spilled out of me. It probably took me 30 minutes (and it’s a long post!!!!!). If that’s not a sign from God that it was meant to be written, I DON’T KNOW WHAT IS. Seriously, though. I had no trouble, no hesitation, NO WRITERS BLOCK. The words quickly and easily flowed through my fingertips.

OH YEAH! And THEN I let the blog post just sit there in my drafts!!!! So not only did I postpone WRITING it…I postponed PUBLISHING it after I wrote it!!!!

HERE’S WHERE IT GETS GOOD!!!!

When I finally got over myself (HAHAHAHA) and published the blog post, I *IMMEDIATELY* started getting texts and messages on Facebook and Instagram from people who silently suffered for years, too! They actually THANKED ME for my honesty and vulnerability and I WAS BLOWN AWAY AND IN SHOCK.

This wasn’t my doing at all. IT WAS ALL GOD!!!!

I said, “OKAY, GOD. FINE! I’LL PUBLISH IT! SHEESH!” and then God said, “THANK YOU. It’s about time! Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have some work to do.” 

I was no longer needed, HAHAHAHAHA!

But really…all God needed me to do was BE OBEDIENT and say “OKIE DOKIE, GOD!!!” and then He handled the rest and the result was UNBELIEVABLE.

How often do we postpone our obedience and/or grudgingly agree to do something?

And how often do we (by God’s grace!!!!) witness an actual MIRACLE when we (finally!!!!) agree to what He’s asking us to do????????????????????????? LIKE…HELLO, PEOPLE! ALL THE STINKIN’ TIME. AM I RIGHT?

But, we forget…OR…we pretend like we aren’t aware of the fact that every single time we’ve been obedient, showed up, and said “YES!!” to God, He has blown it OUT OF THE ACTUAL WATER.

I’ve learned vulnerability really does make a huge impact on the lives of those around us. When we’re open and honest about our struggles, we are able to meet people where they’re at and we create an environment that says, “You’re welcome here, just as you are. You don’t have to change a thing.”

I’m guilty of postponing what God is calling me to do because of fear, shame, and embarrassment. However, I am starting to understand more and more just how vital it is that we use our vulnerability to reach the hearts of others.

The other day, I was talking to one of my best friends about vulnerability and how we all just walk around with smiles on our faces. We tell each other “I’m okay” or “I’m fine” or “I’m just tired” when in actuality, we’re not.

We are hurting terribly but think we’re alone in our situation and/or don’t think anybody cares enough to really listen and understand or be empathetic. 

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The truth is, we’re all facing our own battles. I believe that. Everybody has something they’re struggling with either physically, spiritually, financially, mentally, or emotionally. But we act like we’re perfect and that we have our act together! Why do we do this to each other? Why are we like this?

I’M SPEAKING TO MYSELF, TOO!!!

When I realized the one post I didn’t want to write was my #1 most read blog post for 2017, I was speechless. I couldn’t believe it at first…but once I came back down to Planet Earth, I realized, “Well DUH. OF COURSE that’s how it worked out because THAT’S HOW GOD WORKS!”

God doesn’t nudge us for no good reason! There is PURPOSE in the nudge and whisper. He has a plan! He wants to work in us and through us FOR THE SAKE OF THOSE WHO ARE SILENTLY STRUGGLING.

Yes, vulnerability is scary. It’s hard and it makes our knees shake…but our stories matter and they’re meant to be shared.

We are not meant to walk through this life, emotions SHUT OFF from the world around us.

NOPE.

God wants and needs us to be open about what we’re struggling with so we can a) begin the healing process/get help and b) help others who are struggling, too.

Honestly, we would be a heck of a lot better off if we’d all just get over ourselves (again, I’m talking to myself, too!!!!!!) and set aside our selfishness and pride and BE REAL HUMAN BEINGS. 

WE’RE NOT ALIENS, YA KNOW!!!!!!

It’s easy to think that our story is insignificant and that nobody wants to hear it…but I’m learning vulnerability isn’t necessarily about who WANTS to hear our story. It’s about who NEEDS to hear our story.

OH, AND………………..it’s easy to think or IGNORE that we’re hurting. We can push and shove like there’s no tomorrow but THAT PAIN ISN’T GOING AWAY. Keeping what we’re struggling with in the dark away from sight is DETRIMENTAL. The DARKNESS is the PRIME SPOT for Satan to come and start fiddling with us and causing a lot of damage. We have to bring our struggles and hurts and pains to LIGHT and let God restore us and REDEEM US in a way that ONLY HE CAN. 

We build God’s Kingdom here on earth by letting our guard down and saying, “I’m human. I’m broken. And I’m really having a hard time right now…but look at what God has done and is doing in my life! Look how He is restoring me!”

Sure, there will be people who mock us and attack us and call us names. There will be people who don’t understand and will, quite frankly, probably never understand. COOL BEANS. TURN THE OTHER CHEEK AND KEEP TRUCKING.

Vulnerability is about being honest with ourselves AND OTHERS, without knowing the outcome or having any control over it (GASP!!!!!).

BUT DING, DING, DING!!!!! God uses our vulnerability. He uses our stories. And, as a result, lives are changed. LIVES ARE TRANSFORMED! For the first time in a person’s ENTIRE LIFE, they feel HOPE…AND THEY CAN BEGIN THE HEALING PROCESS!

Satan no longer has a hold on their struggle.

God does.

And by golly, there is NO MIGHTIER HEDGE OF PROTECTION than having the HAND OF GOD placed on our situation.

THE ONE BLOG POST I DIDN’T WANT TO WRITE AND POSTPONED FOR FOUR (4!!!!!) STINKIN’ MONTHS AND THEN LET SIT IN MY DRAFTS EVEN AFTER I WROTE IT WAS (BY THE GRACE OF GOD) MY #1 MOST READ BLOG POST IN 2017. ARE YOU FOLLOWING???????

OBEDIENCE + VULNERABILITY = THE PERFECT SETUP FOR GOD TO DO THE DANG THING

Let’s get over ourselves this year.

Let’s stop acting like everything is fine and dandy and start getting real with each other. 

VULNERABILITY gives VISION of a brighter future to the hopeless.

Speak up.

Be honest.

Your story matters.

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